How to Emotionally Survive the Stress of IVF?

If your physician recommends IVF (IVF) it is likely that you’ve been through years of anxiety and stress that usually are associated with infertility. The anxiety and stress can be magnified when you undergo IVF.

Why is  IVF Emotionally Stressful:

In vitro fertilization is a physically, mentally and financially exhausting process. In reality, IVF patients have rated the process of IVF as being more stressful than, or even the same as a significant life-altering event, for example, the death of a family member or divorce as per the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology.

Drug-related side effects, financial anxiety and uncertain results can all add to the stress. 

Recognizing the potential stresses that you might encounter during your journey to IVF and knowing how to deal with them could help you get through the bumps and valleys


Preparing for IVF

The side effects of medication can make you feel anxious and can make stress, depression, and anxiety even more intense. Tests and office visits may interfere with work, family and social interactions. The decision-making process regarding embryos that are not used can cause stress to the family.


Bouncing Between Optimism and Pessimism

A minute later and you’re bursting with optimism.

“This cycle will be the one that works! This will be my miracle month!”


And then, in the next, you could see the dark side of things.

“What if I spend the rest of my life alone and depressed? What if this doesn’t work? What if nothing ever works?”

Take a moment to think about it. Take a deep breath. Then another.


It’s perfectly normal to oscillate between being excited and nervous. Be sure to remind yourself, especially when you’re in the dark and depressing phase, that it’s only one cycle. Even if it’s the third or even fourth IVF cycle, remember that it’s just one cycle.


Sometimes, we don’t realise that it’s normal for patients to go through several treatment cycles before we achieve success, and we do not realise that other treatment options are waiting for us. We may think that we’ve reached the end of the road, however there are many other options we don’t even know about at the moment.


Even if everything goes wrong, and you are unable to get the result as you had hoped, it will be and still is a normal day. It’s going to be very difficult initially. It will be very, very difficult. But with time and counselling, you can get through this. Your life won’t end with the completion of the fertility treatment process. Remember this whenever you’re stressed, particularly during the wait of two weeks.


How can I stay stress-free during IVF/ How can I Emotionally survive the IVF stress

As you prepare physically for with your IVF cycle, be sure to emotionally prepare yourself as well by following these suggestions:

  • Find out details. One of the most effective remedies for anxiety is knowledge and information.
  • Prepare for decision-making. Make sure you are prepared for any decisions that have to be made during IVF, such as the number of embryos that need to be transferred or what should be done with additional embryos.
  • Make sure you’re in a positive emotional state, and you’re sound prior to beginning the IVF cycle.
  • Talk ahead of time with your partner about what you hope and expectations for each other throughout the course of the cycle.
  • You might want to consider becoming a member of an IVF support group.
  • Your life should be as simple as possible. Avoid big choices, life-altering changes or stressful work and family circumstances.
  • Plan out how you can unwind. Think about meditation with mindfulness, meditation with guided imagery, or yoga.

Waiting for Pregnancy News

Waiting to hear “the news” about your IVF cycle is stressful. It’s normal to keep an eye on your body every day to look for signs of pregnancy during this two-week waiting. It is possible to manage your anxiety by preparing yourself with these guidelines:

  • Give yourself a treat. Make sure you do things that you love.
  • Deep, slow breaths when you’re anxious.
  • Change your negative thinking. Believing in the worst makes the wait seem more long.
  • Find out what your partner, and you, are experiencing as stressors and coping strategies.
  • Be aware of the things you can control and also what you aren’t.
  • Be aware that there is a chance to fail at each step of the process.

Bracing for Unsuccessful IVF

Despite the advancements in medical technology in the field, even with the most advanced medical advances, an IVF process is much more likely to end in failure than it is to succeed. It’s crucial to recognize that if you fail in getting pregnant, it is impossible to escape the grief, sadness and devastation that are a part of grieving.


However, regardless of the result of IVF, experts stress the importance of knowing that you’ve accomplished everything in your control to be able to have children. By doing this, you can avoid regrets in the future.


To safeguard yourself emotionally, consider these guidelines:

  • Limit the number of people you let know concerning your period.
  • You can assign one family member to pass on your information.
  • Make a plan of where you’d like to be when you get the announcement. You might not be in the mood to go to work. You might or might not like having others in your vicinity.
  • Discuss with your companion how to help each other in the event that the news is not good.
  • Do not plan events that could be stressful in the days leading up to when you are expected to hear the news.

Anytime during your cycle, or even after, when you experience discomforting depression or anxiety symptoms, you should consult an expert in mental health with experience and knowledge of dealing with infertility.